A woman has been advised to break up with her boyfriend after she admitted to feeling ‘hurt’ by his Christmas faux pas. Despite dating for a number of months and discussing gifts over the festive season, he declined to buy her anything.
Instead, he has offered her a voucher to get her nails done. This has left the woman feeling upset as she has spent time with him shopping for others and feels as though he should have also made the time to shop for her.
Taking to Mumsnet, the woman said that even a bouquet of flowers would have been enough for her as it is the thought that counts. She said: “He’s told me this morning that he hasn’t had chance to get me a proper present and has offered me a voucher to get my nails done instead.
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“I can’t explain why because he has offered a solution, but I feel strangely hurt by this. He gave me options for what he wanted early in December, and I to him (items such as a scarf, a new chopping board – not expensive options if you get me) but said due to being busy at work he’s not had chance to look or order.
” I also said something like flowers would never be unappreciated, so I am not short of options. I’ve sorted his present plus other things I know he will like after listening to what he needs and wants. And I’ve been with him as he’s bought presents for friends, etc.”
She added: “On the whole, he’s lovely, but I have noticed these sometimes selfish moments. I don’t know how to bring it up in a way that doesn’t look selfish or grabby – it’s not the material gift but the thought.”
In response, other Mumsnet users told her to quit the relationship altogether. One said, “Cast him back. This is your chance to get rid. Honestly, these signs are there for a reason. Listen to them.
“You’ve been dating for months, and it’s hardly as though Christmas just snuck up on him. He’s showing you that you don’t mean all that much to him, so you should listen.”
Another said: “Testing you to see how badly he can treat you and you’ll put up with it.” A third added: “He’s showing you who he is, he’s selfish and values his own time over your happiness.
“If he had time to shop for other gifts, he had time to shop for yours too. How long does it take to go online, literally 10 minutes.
“You could do that on a lunch break or the commute to work. He’s lazy, selfish and he thinks nothing of letting you down!”
One person asked: “How many months is ‘a number’? This is a truly s**t thing he did and I would not be ok with this at all.”
Another woman advised that she “bin him off.” She said: “Where do you live? Somewhere remote with no shops?
“Tell him ‘No, thank you’, I would very much not like a voucher for something I do regularly every few months. Sort it out. Shops are open for another 2 days”. Then bin him off.”